TIPS FOR GIVING HIM A HANDJOB (great advice from men) *Make sure your hands are soft and your nails are clipped. Soft hands always feel good and he would most likely appreciate not being scratched or jabbed with a sharp nail. But if you have long nails, be careful!
*Get some lube. No, lotion simply won’t do – it is too thick and gloppy! Think twice before using oil if you plan on having intercourse using a condom later (it can break down a condom quickly). Lube isn’t that expensive and works much better for the task at hand (no pun intended) – make sure you get the water based lubricant as well. Have it ready by the bed (or venue of choice) so that when you begin, you can easily coat your hands and your partner’s penis with the substance. You will most likely need to reapply throughout the massage. Slipperier/wetter is better! There are now all sorts of “fantasy” lubes on the market now. You can get lube that warms, lube that cools, is flavored, is organic (no chemicals) or even desensitizes which is good if your man comes too quickly with your touch. Your own spit is great and easy to come by! Mixed with some of his precum makes for very good, not to mention convenient, “natural” mixture of slippery stuff! If you plan to use oil, use Grapeseed oil. It’s very slippery and natural. *Have other items of interest ready. If you want to use edible items or other props (such as feathers, etc.) you will want to get those out and set up next to the area in which you will be giving the genital massage. Less time fumbling around with items that you’re going to use equates to a more enjoyable experience with your partner. Also make sure any toys you might be using are within reach. A bullet on a penis or even the Magic Wand can be a lot of fun! *Make your partner comfortable….and you too! This is actually a very important part regarding genital massage that is often given very little or no thought. First of all, if your partner is not comfortable, his enjoyment will be hindered somewhat – making it more difficult for him to have an orgasm or the fantastic one you are planning to give. If the woman is uncomfortable, she will tire of massaging her partner’s genitals more quickly and easily than if she were set up well and relaxed. So, unless you are wanting the hand job to be “risky” or “surprising” (like in his office or in the woods), find a comfortable place in which to give your partner the genital massage. You can also add extra comfort by propping either you or your partner (or both!) up on soft pillows. Be sure to position yourself so that your hands and arms will not become tired easily. The bed is an obvious choice but also consider a sofa (one that is protected or cleans up easily) or an office chair that leans back. Most men do like to lounge back while they are masturbating or receiving hand jobs as it is usually a comfortable position and allows for the thrusting of the hips.
*Finding the Right Position. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable. Some ideas for positioning are: * Standing with your partner facing you (you are both standing facing each other). He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his manhood will be a huge turn on for him. * Kneeling in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).
* Sitting side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be quite the surprise.
* Sitting in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.
* Sitting beside your partner but leaning over in a way that you are facing his feet.
* “Doggy Style” positioning. You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.
* Kneeling while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blow job but it can be used solely for a hand job.
* Lying beside your partner. If you undress he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.
* Driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater.
* Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like.
* Try having him in the bathtub and you on the edge while substituting your “feet” for “hand” action and given him a “foot job” to change things up!
* Standing with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants —- never let him turn around —- but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you. Women love this position because it can also be used with the SURPRISE “sneak into the shower and give him a hand job when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.
* Any other position that you and your partner find comfortable and fun As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of genital massage (not just the positioning). Just because he is not orgasming in a certain position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.
*Warming Him Up. It is important to warm your partner up before going the full Monty. Just how exactly do you get your partner warmed up? You can utilize some of the same techniques for warming up a man for intercourse, such as giving him visual stimulation. Trust me – with guys, visual stimulation will warm them up anytime. You can wear revealing or seductive lingerie (just as long as you’re wearing something that you feel good in and are comfortable with too) or you can do a little strip tease for him.
Eye contact is ultra important for most guys. You certainly don’t stare him down but look at his face from time to time like he is the man you adore and want to eat up.
One of the best ways, however, to get a man warmed up for an amazing hand job is to massage the rest of his body first. Contrary to popular belief, women aren’t the only ones who like a full body massage as a prelude to sexual activity! Now, this does not mean that you have to go all out and give your partner a massage that a professional would charge a hundred bucks an hour for. You can, however, massage his head, neck and some of his back to get him loose and ready to experience sexual stimulation. This is also a great ice breaker if you’re a bit shy or if you want to surprise your partner with a hand job. It is also a fantastic tease for him. One minute your hands are on his lower back and the next…. Other great ways to warm him up are to: - Talk dirty to him. - Give him a play by play of what you’re going to do to him before you do it - Give him a sensual (or kinky) lap dance - Play a naughty board game with him As long as you’re creative, you can come up with hundreds of ways to get your guy ready for some hot, hand job action!
*Genitalia. Explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your hand job will be.
*Scrotum. The scrotum is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs. You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.
* Perineum. This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do. Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lubrication down there first! Things will slide right along!
* Inner thighs, lower abdominal muscles. These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the hand job to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing. Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.
*The Anus. Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for some men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.
*The Penis. Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him. There are a couple of important parts of the penis that aren’t always understood by women (and most men don’t know their names).
* Corona – this is the sensitive ring/ridge around the head of the penis. For most men, it is the most sensitive part of his entire member. This is especially true for men who have not been circumcised as their foreskin protects it from getting rubbed. Men who have been “cut” have their coronas rubbing their underwear all day long so after a while the sensitivity is decreased. But if you put some special attention there with your touch you’ll probably see your man’s eyes roll back in his head. After a man ejaculates, the corona is often too sensitive to even touch for a minute or two.
* Frenulum – this is the vertical piece of skin you see on the top of the shaft that connects to the head on the underside of his penis. In uncut men it is what holds the foreskin over the tip of the penis. It is believed to have more nerve endings of any part of the male anatomy. In both cut and uncut men the frenulum is a highly pleasurable spot that deserves attention (there is more of it in uncircumcised men). Many men ejaculate fairly quickly if you stroke the frenulum up and down with a well lubed hand or fingertips. So, to speed him up, focus more of your strokes on the top 1/3 of his shaft and to slow things down, spend more time on the bottom 2/3. Massage Techniques. Always keep this primary tip in mind. Every great hand job, blow job or intercourse has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction. When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale. Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here. ° Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra19 slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.
° Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.
° Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation.
° Some guys like it if you shake his penis gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.
° Take one hand and wrap it around his penis, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.
° Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the penis pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless pussy.
° Hold the base of the penis firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head of the penis. This traps blood at the head of the penis, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.
° Give a long stroke from the base of the penis all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect.
° Put both hands on your partner’s penis, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.
° Try using different strokes with your partner’s penis pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.
° Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the penis in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in. More Techniques
° Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum. ° Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.
° Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.
° Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.
° With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer. ° If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.
° While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this Side / Side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.
° For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. It just takes a gentler touch.
Special Additions. While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.
Candle Wax. You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. Warm oil/lube is better for a hand job overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your genitals is special indeed and worth doing now and again. Scarf or tie. Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled.
If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting hand job experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a hand job. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch. Silk or Satin lingerie. Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls.
Vibrators. Battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary).
Beads. No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I’m talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.
Fruit. This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight.
Vegetables. Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.
Condoms. Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his dick into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon”. If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside.
Baggies. Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.
Fan. You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.
He’s About To Have An Orgasm. You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job.
Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate. A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the hand job as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones. Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll cum. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.
Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go! If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.
Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. They like for you to see the eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. They want to see wonder in your eyes as they shoot as high or as far as they can.
Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels sexual fires. Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time. Handing off to him has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong, aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself. There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more hand jobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge. What will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt is to sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your “lips” and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a hand job session. One very simple trick to getting your guy over the edge (or to multiply the intensity of his ejaculation) is to talk dirty to him. Most men will be extremely turned on if you comment on his spewing in a type of “dirty talk” language. You can say things like: I want your juice all over me I love watching you erupt Shoot me with your cum Let me see you unload your cock I love feeling your hot, hard dick in my hands For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards. The most important thing to remember is to communicate likes and dislikes. The better you do this, the better the experience will be for the both of you.
(thanks deviantmanifesto)

TIPS FOR GIVING HIM A HANDJOB
(great advice from men)

*Make sure your hands are soft and your nails are clipped. Soft hands always feel good and he would most likely appreciate not being scratched or jabbed with a sharp nail. But if you have long nails, be careful!

*Get some lube. No, lotion simply won’t do – it is too thick and gloppy! Think twice before using oil if you plan on having intercourse using a condom later (it can break down a condom quickly). Lube isn’t that expensive and works much better for the task at hand (no pun intended) – make sure you get the water based lubricant as well. Have it ready by the bed (or venue of choice) so that when you begin, you can easily coat your hands and your partner’s penis with the substance. You will most likely need to reapply throughout the massage. Slipperier/wetter is better! There are now all sorts of “fantasy” lubes on the market now. You can get lube that warms, lube that cools, is flavored, is organic (no chemicals) or even desensitizes which is good if your man comes too quickly with your touch. Your own spit is great and easy to come by! Mixed with some of his precum makes for very good, not to mention convenient, “natural” mixture of slippery stuff! If you plan to use oil, use Grapeseed oil. It’s very slippery and natural. *Have other items of interest ready. If you want to use edible items or other props (such as feathers, etc.) you will want to get those out and set up next to the area in which you will be giving the genital massage. Less time fumbling around with items that you’re going to use equates to a more enjoyable experience with your partner. Also make sure any toys you might be using are within reach. A bullet on a penis or even the Magic Wand can be a lot of fun! *Make your partner comfortable….and you too! This is actually a very important part regarding genital massage that is often given very little or no thought. First of all, if your partner is not comfortable, his enjoyment will be hindered somewhat – making it more difficult for him to have an orgasm or the fantastic one you are planning to give. If the woman is uncomfortable, she will tire of massaging her partner’s genitals more quickly and easily than if she were set up well and relaxed. So, unless you are wanting the hand job to be “risky” or “surprising” (like in his office or in the woods), find a comfortable place in which to give your partner the genital massage. You can also add extra comfort by propping either you or your partner (or both!) up on soft pillows. Be sure to position yourself so that your hands and arms will not become tired easily. The bed is an obvious choice but also consider a sofa (one that is protected or cleans up easily) or an office chair that leans back. Most men do like to lounge back while they are masturbating or receiving hand jobs as it is usually a comfortable position and allows for the thrusting of the hips.

*Finding the Right Position. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable. Some ideas for positioning are: * Standing with your partner facing you (you are both standing facing each other). He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his manhood will be a huge turn on for him. * Kneeling in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

* Sitting side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be quite the surprise.

* Sitting in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

* Sitting beside your partner but leaning over in a way that you are facing his feet.

* “Doggy Style” positioning. You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

* Kneeling while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blow job but it can be used solely for a hand job.

* Lying beside your partner. If you undress he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

* Driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater.

* Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like.

* Try having him in the bathtub and you on the edge while substituting your “feet” for “hand” action and given him a “foot job” to change things up!

* Standing with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants —- never let him turn around —- but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you. Women love this position because it can also be used with the SURPRISE “sneak into the shower and give him a hand job when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

* Any other position that you and your partner find comfortable and fun As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of genital massage (not just the positioning). Just because he is not orgasming in a certain position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

*Warming Him Up. It is important to warm your partner up before going the full Monty. Just how exactly do you get your partner warmed up? You can utilize some of the same techniques for warming up a man for intercourse, such as giving him visual stimulation. Trust me – with guys, visual stimulation will warm them up anytime. You can wear revealing or seductive lingerie (just as long as you’re wearing something that you feel good in and are comfortable with too) or you can do a little strip tease for him.

Eye contact is ultra important for most guys. You certainly don’t stare him down but look at his face from time to time like he is the man you adore and want to eat up.

One of the best ways, however, to get a man warmed up for an amazing hand job is to massage the rest of his body first. Contrary to popular belief, women aren’t the only ones who like a full body massage as a prelude to sexual activity! Now, this does not mean that you have to go all out and give your partner a massage that a professional would charge a hundred bucks an hour for. You can, however, massage his head, neck and some of his back to get him loose and ready to experience sexual stimulation. This is also a great ice breaker if you’re a bit shy or if you want to surprise your partner with a hand job. It is also a fantastic tease for him. One minute your hands are on his lower back and the next…. Other great ways to warm him up are to: - Talk dirty to him. - Give him a play by play of what you’re going to do to him before you do it - Give him a sensual (or kinky) lap dance - Play a naughty board game with him As long as you’re creative, you can come up with hundreds of ways to get your guy ready for some hot, hand job action!

*Genitalia. Explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your hand job will be.

*Scrotum. The scrotum is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs. You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

* Perineum. This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do. Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lubrication down there first! Things will slide right along!

* Inner thighs, lower abdominal muscles. These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the hand job to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing. Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

*The Anus. Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for some men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

*The Penis. Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him. There are a couple of important parts of the penis that aren’t always understood by women (and most men don’t know their names).

* Corona – this is the sensitive ring/ridge around the head of the penis. For most men, it is the most sensitive part of his entire member. This is especially true for men who have not been circumcised as their foreskin protects it from getting rubbed. Men who have been “cut” have their coronas rubbing their underwear all day long so after a while the sensitivity is decreased. But if you put some special attention there with your touch you’ll probably see your man’s eyes roll back in his head. After a man ejaculates, the corona is often too sensitive to even touch for a minute or two.

* Frenulum – this is the vertical piece of skin you see on the top of the shaft that connects to the head on the underside of his penis. In uncut men it is what holds the foreskin over the tip of the penis. It is believed to have more nerve endings of any part of the male anatomy. In both cut and uncut men the frenulum is a highly pleasurable spot that deserves attention (there is more of it in uncircumcised men). Many men ejaculate fairly quickly if you stroke the frenulum up and down with a well lubed hand or fingertips. So, to speed him up, focus more of your strokes on the top 1/3 of his shaft and to slow things down, spend more time on the bottom 2/3. Massage Techniques. Always keep this primary tip in mind. Every great hand job, blow job or intercourse has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction. When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale. Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here. ° Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra19 slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

° Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

° Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation.

° Some guys like it if you shake his penis gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

° Take one hand and wrap it around his penis, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

° Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the penis pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless pussy.

° Hold the base of the penis firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head of the penis. This traps blood at the head of the penis, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

° Give a long stroke from the base of the penis all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect.

° Put both hands on your partner’s penis, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

° Try using different strokes with your partner’s penis pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

° Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the penis in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in. More Techniques

° Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum. ° Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.

° Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.

° Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.

° With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer. ° If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.

° While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this Side / Side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.

° For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. It just takes a gentler touch.

Special Additions. While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.

Candle Wax. You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. Warm oil/lube is better for a hand job overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your genitals is special indeed and worth doing now and again. Scarf or tie. Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled.

If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting hand job experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a hand job. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch. Silk or Satin lingerie. Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls.

Vibrators. Battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary).

Beads. No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I’m talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.

Fruit. This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight.

Vegetables. Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.

Condoms. Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his dick into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon”. If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside.

Baggies. Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.

Fan. You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.

He’s About To Have An Orgasm. You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job.

Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate. A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the hand job as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones. Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll cum. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go! If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. They like for you to see the eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. They want to see wonder in your eyes as they shoot as high or as far as they can.

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels sexual fires. Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time. Handing off to him has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong, aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself. There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more hand jobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge. What will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt is to sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your “lips” and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a hand job session. One very simple trick to getting your guy over the edge (or to multiply the intensity of his ejaculation) is to talk dirty to him. Most men will be extremely turned on if you comment on his spewing in a type of “dirty talk” language. You can say things like: I want your juice all over me I love watching you erupt Shoot me with your cum Let me see you unload your cock I love feeling your hot, hard dick in my hands For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards. The most important thing to remember is to communicate likes and dislikes. The better you do this, the better the experience will be for the both of you.

(thanks deviantmanifesto)